Anatomy of a Scandal

During the winter, Netflix had a plethora of programs to choose from. It was a veritable paradise. Then the Award Shows came and went. Netflix and Amazon Prime slowed down their productions. (Netflix is having other problems but that is another post). One night three weeks ago, I decided to take a chance on a limited series called “Anatomy of a Scandal” starring Lady Mary. Her name is actually Michelle Dockery but who remembers that? It seemed to be just another British courtroom drama. I can’t tell you if it is a good production but it was/is a surprising show. With all the news about #MeToo and #Weinstein and all the women who have come forward, not one thing I’ve read has addressed the theme of ‘consent’ in the way this series does.

The plot involves a charismatic junior member of Parliament, married with two children, who has been accused of rape. He has allegedly raped a woman that he’d been having an affair with but had ended the relationship. The rape happened a week later. The man, James Whitehouse, is on trial but really on trial is the question of what does consent mean? We, the readers, are treated to the thinking of a number of women who aren’t sure how to say ‘no’. Who question their own sanity when a boy/man says “I’m just kidding”. Who don’t know their own mind when it comes to sex. Who aren’t sure whether going along with a boy’s wishes will help the relationship to continue. In other words, about 90% of us women.

I googled “How to talk about sex”. This is part of what I got.

When I was growing up, we had to take Sex Ed courses. It was embarrassing. No one wanted to take the classes and if we did, we didn’t know how to take them seriously. No classes were given to just us girls on how to make decisions about sex. We were only told ‘don’t have sex.’ Peyton Place was popular on TV and that was our sex education. I remember hearing boys talking about how when ‘no really means yes.’ I never knew how to think about any of this stuff.

The movie Peyton Place was soon followed by a three year evening soap opera that introduced the world to Mia Farrow

This show tackles all this. It defines rape within a marriage. I’ve always said that I have never been raped. In fact, I was. By a boyfriend who would not hear No when I kept saying it. We were on a vacation and had had an argument. I’m sure that he never for a moment gave it a second thought, that that time might have been problematic for me. And I’m sure that when we broke up months later, it never occurred to him that what had happened on vacation had had a huge impact on my feelings towards him. I didn’t say anything, I was too confused myself.

Probably not the original book cover

After I finished watching the show, I discovered that I had the original book by Sarah Vaughn on my Kindle. I have no idea how long it has been there. At least two weeks had gone by since I finished the show so I started to read the book. Again, I can’t tell you if it’s good literature. It’s very compelling. It’s a best seller according to the latest cover. The series changed aspects of the story as so many do when going from book to TV but the basic premise is the same. When does ‘No’ mean ‘No’ no matter if one is in a relationship or not. And in both the book and the series, the horror of what the ‘victim’ has to reveal in front of who knows how many people and still she may not be believed. The man is always right unless proved otherwise beyond any reasonable doubt.

Right now in the US, white men, with the aid of one woman, who call themselves Judges are in the process of taking choice away from women. Most of my grown up life has been with Roe vs Wade. But now that may disappear. It is okay for men to rape their girlfriends (and others) but the women have no say in whether to end a pregnancy that may result. From the vantage point of France, the US keeps looking more and more insane. Backward and very, very mean. I don’t want to get into discussing Roe vs Wade and what’s going on because of the Supreme Court leak. There are so many places to read opinions on that. But how it relates to men and rape….well, I think that is huge.

I think more books are going to be published on this subject. I saw a review of one that will be published in the Fall. However, Anatomy of a Scandal is one I really recommend because of the treatment. There are two rapes in the book both by the same person but different in nature. We are flies on the wall to courtroom scenes where a woman is torn to shreds to reveal her experience. We are privy to thoughts of the wife and one of the rape victims. And there is the whole issue of white male entitlement. This probably sounds like yet another angry woman but these things are real. People are fighting and lying and doing dirty deeds to keep these things in place. Women may have the vote (maybe that will be taken away also), women may be able to work outside the house though it will be a rare day when the average woman can earn the same salary as the average man in the same position.

There is a movie. I don’t know how old it is. The title is What Do Women Want? I never saw it and have no right to discuss it. But the title…..I remember thinking back when it came out that I hated the title. Who was this film maker to make a joke of this. But the truth was, I had very little idea what I wanted. Not just sexually but professionally, with friendships. I’ve been extraordinarily lucky. I have good friends though I’ve had to drop a few a long the way as they belonged to another life. I literally fell into work that I loved and had the same career for thirty-four years. I retired while I still could do other things. I worked for the Mayor of Oakland and had a three year course in civics. I couldn’t have bought that in a university. And now I live in Paris, am learning French in my 70s, and applying to Stanford University!

But none of the above is any indication of the chatter of questions that go on in my mind. Wondering, always wondering if I’m good enough, kind enough, thoughtful enough, have I done enough, am I lazy, on and on. Nothing I’m sure that the rest of us aren’t asking ourselves on a daily basis.

I’m curious. Who of my readers has seen the series or read the book? Did it inspire any ruminating within you as it did with me? Please leave a comment so I know how others around the world are thinking presently about this topic.

A bientôt,

Sara

Author: Sara Somers

I am retired from my first profession, am from Oakland, California, living in Paris, France since 2013. I love books, movies, and watching everyday life in Paris out my window. Please enjoy my musings as I grow into the author others say I am. I am always open to thoughts and ideas from others about this blog. I like to write about Paris, about France, about the US as seen from France. About France that the US may or may not know.

9 thoughts on “Anatomy of a Scandal”

    1. Thank you, Kit. I’ll be interested in what you think about it. Love reading you in Medium. Sara

  1. Hi Sara. I’m a film maker here in Paris. Two years ago I made MEMORIES OF DESIRE based on my own #metoo experince, as a 29 minute experimental film shot on 35 mm film in black and white. In it I play myself at 17 to reflect the fact that traumas last a lifetime. CINEMA GUILD in New York is distributing it as an experimental movie. Would be great if you took a look at it. If you have comments (good, bad, or indifferent) would appreciate them a lot.

    english :https://vimeo.com/320466066
    password : victoriaenglish

    I’m sending you the English version with the voice of Nick Mancuso
    It will be performed next summer as a cineconcert with a quartet playing the music live at a Helsinki chamber music festival.

    I am now completing a feature film shot at the Alvar Aalto villa outside Paris. It is a love story set in sixties Finland when the dependence on Russia made private and public relationships codependent because of Soviet Russian control.

    All best for your summer. See you at a Sunday meeting.
    Victoria

    1. Victoria–Thanks for sending and I will watch and comment. And please invite me to the summer cineconcert. I have always felt support from you and now I know more of what you are doing. Bisous

  2. Sara ~ I,too, just noticed this on Netflix, but didn’t view. The book sounds even better. Would you recommend reading the book first? Book fan here. ~ Lisa

  3. I haven’t watched the Netflix series or read the book, but I did see What Women Want and I think you misinterpreted its theme. In the movie, the main character played well by the now discredited Mel Gibson (as a human being, not as a actor, he is terrific if this one) has one of those fantastical changes where he can now hear a woman’s inner thoughts, what women are REALLY thinking. It’s a wonderful eye opener. I loved the movie, having seen it a number of times, and encourage you to watch it.

    1. Thank you, Jessica. I sure did misinterpret. Thank goodness for readers like you who take the time to set me straight. I will definitely watch the movie now –in spite of the discredited actor!!! Bisous

  4. HI Sally,

    I haven’t seen the series or read the book. But I’m on simmer (which might go to outrage pretty soon) on the topic of/implications of rolling back Roe v. Wade. I want to do is something more than rant and can’t figure out what that is — other than donate to abortion clinics.

    I love that you’re asking these questions! Keep on keeping on.

    Time for a Zoom call soon?

    xoxo, me

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